You Can't Complete Me.

I have not forgotten you. Promise. I spent the weekend with the family and had quality time with them. PLUS I am doing some in detail research on a specific gift to make sure I have all the information that I need. Be patient with me, I'm learning and have loads of questions that I'm trying to comb through.

Today I want to tell you something that has been on my heart since I spotted an article on facebook. An 18 year old college student has been charged with the murder of a 13 year old girl. She had been said to be on a dating facebook group and there is no telling what kind of interaction that she had with people on that site.

When I was in High School I used Yahoo Messenger and AOL to talk to people from all over the place and would go and meet them. Only because of the prayers of a praying mother am I still alive today. I have no doubt in that. As many places as I had been and positions that I had put myself in, it was very dangerous.

I want to tell you a secret I didn't learn until I was 3 years into my marriage. It's not because I didn't hear it, but it is because I didn't believe it. This remains true for your entire life. Every relationship. Every circumstance. THEY WILL NOT COMPLETE YOU. That person that you think you have to have, they won't complete you. They won't make your "half into a whole". If you feel that you aren't whole the way you are right now, then you haven't experienced God the way HE wants you to.

Let me explain further. I am 28 and thought for the longest time that I had to have a relationship to be a complete person. I dated some really crappy people just to have a relationship. Men who cheated on me, abused me (mentally and physically), and unequally yoked individuals. Once I got to the point in my life that I said, "You know what, it's just me and God. I don't need anyone else. I can be single and happy." Everything changed. I became more involved in church and dove into reading and studying. That's when I met Justin.

After 3 years of marriage, I still didn't get it. I always tell Justin that I can live without him, but I don't want to. It's not that he makes me complete or makes me this super amazing person. He challenges me, yes. But that doesn't mean that I wasn't a great person before I met him. What makes me awesome and what makes me the person I am, is my relationship with God. It's not my son, or my relationship with my husband. It's not my in laws and my relationship with them. It's not my schooling. It's not my past. It's not my ability to do anything. It's all in my relationship with Christ.

So, if you think someone will complete you. They will, but only God. He made you the person you are for a reason. He has plans for YOU! Not you with your spouse. Not you with your best friend. YOU, INDIVIDUAL. YOU. People will come and go through your life but they aren't made to always take the journey with you. Where people fail, God succeeds. He is the ultimate cheerleader. He's always there. ALWAYS! We have to stop thinking that we have to have someone to make us a whole person, when God makes us complete with Him.