V-Card

I'm not as dumb as I seem. I know what a V-Card is. If you ask anyone I graduated with, you will know that it was a known factor that I was a christian and I wasn't going to be having sex.... ever. There's a lot more detailed stories to go with that as I got to my senior year, but anyway. My 5th thing I wish I had known in my 20's is that Virgin isn't a dirty word.

I'm going to spare you the "Christian" terminology or the "christian" thing to say. Most of you already know that sex was made for inside of marriage. Sex is so much more complicated, for women, than men I think. Of course I'm not a dude, so I can't speak on that. Sex for a woman creates a whole different package of complicated emotions. Cause we aren't a mess already.

When you do anything for the first time, you have a connection or a memory attached to it. Think about the first time you drove a car. Or the first time you went out by yourself driving. What about the first time you walked into high school. The first time you sang a special. Or the first time you had coffee. Or a different type of food. You have a memory attached to that. It doesn't have to be a good memory. It could be something not so happy.

My point is, you have a connection with that moment. Having sex is the SAME WAY! You remember that. Maybe not vividly. Maybe not the day or time. But you remember. Having that moment with your spouse makes your connection that much stronger. Now I'm not downing anyone who has had sex before they were married, cause Lord knows that would make me the biggest hypocrite. If I could go back and smack myself, I would. I know it wouldn't do any good because those experiences made me who I am today.

However, I wish I could have been more cautious. I know it probably won't change where you are right now, or how you feel about sex before marriage. And honestly, that's fine. But if I can say this and save one girl the heart ache I went through for 3 years before I met my husband, it's worth stepping on a few toes. You know the phrase, "You have to test drive the car before you buy it." Let me ask you this, if you hadn't test driven so many cars, how would you know the car you bought was bad? I know that might sound stupid. But if you test drive 25 cars, you start to realize that every car (Make and Model) is different.

Perfect example. I drove a Honda Civic for years. I loved that car. When Eve finally died, I went to the car lot to get a new car. I ended up getting a Veloster. I LOVED that car. I named it toothless. It was black and soooooo sooooo pretty. A little sports car. 6 months after we got toothless I found out I was pregnant. Now a Veloster is a 3 door car, with little to NO room for a carseat. I had to be a responsible adult and trade it in for a mommy car. I went to get my oil changed on Monday and walked on the lot. Why? Because the sitting room was full. There is was. A sonic blue, turbo veloster with sunroof. 6 speed. My heart broke. I wanted that car. I took pictures of it. I looked at it, longing to test drive it. Which would have lead to me probably wanting to buy the sucker.

That longing that I had for that Veloster was dumb. I'm a mom of a toddler. I can't be driving a turbo 6 speed car. Only because I know how I am. But I talked about it for 2 days. Oh that veloster would look sexy sitting in my driveway. I would look so great driving it. It's like wanting to be with someone you USED to have sex with before you got married. I compare my mommy car to the veloster all day. Do you really want that in your marriage?