In the words of the wonderful group of the 90's, Let's talk about sex. The chapter opens up with a question that was presented to her by a Korean student at Liberty University asking, "Why in your country is sex so, so, so... okay to talk about everywhere... in American movies and magazines... but not okay to talk about in American Church?"
That's a great question. We spend so much time accepting the sexual propaganda in movies and in magazines, yet if a Pastor utters the word sex or mentions something remotely sexual we giggle and shutter. It makes no sense, God made sex so why is it so *hush hush* in a church setting? Another blog for another day. I want to focus on the lies and misconceptions that Satan has tricked women to believing over the..... well forever I'm sure.
First off, can I explain to you what your virginity SHOULD mean to you? STORY TIME! A woman took a ruby broach to an appraiser telling the person that she was given the broach as a dress up piece. Her mother bought it to her in 1955 for 50 cents. The appraiser told her that it was a rare piece that wasn't seen often and was worth appropriately $10,000! Could you imagine the woman's excitement? This is the example given in the book about how important your virginity is. The person who had the broach at the time was selling it for 50 cents which doesn't seem like a lot to us today. It was the equivalent to $4.50 now. But it's worth so much more than what it was being sold for. Your virginity is like that. We can give it away to some random person, but it's worth so much more!!!!
LIE NUMBER 1 - MEN ARE PIGS!!!!!
While there is no doubt in my mind that there are a few men in the world that ARE pigs, that doesn't mean that they ALL are. When God made Adam and Eve he was like, HEY be fruitful and multiply! God made Adam to be able to look at a woman and being "excited", if you will, and able to fruitful and multiply. They are the progenitor of the human race and their desire is to be physically intimate. If they wanted to hold hands and skip in a field with women with no desire to be physical do you think we would have a human race? Probably not. It's the same way with women. We were made to be emotional and be nurturing. This way we can take care of our children. I'm sorry if you are a woman's activist and find this completely irrelevant. But this is the way we were created!!! God put these characteristics in our DNA from day one. IF you are a woman and you don't like it when men say, "All women are whores." Maybe you should think again before using the phrase, "All men are pigs." There are good men out there, you just have to be willing to be patient!
LIE NUMBER 2 - LOVE = SEX
Do not believe the statement, "well if you loved me then you would have sex with me." All to much did I hear that statement when I was growing up. Not from men dating me but my girlfriends who were in a long term relationship and their boyfriends wanted them to give up their virginity. If a MAN truly loves the woman he is with he would GLADLY give up self gratification before their marriage to show them their commitment to them. STORY TIME! When I was engaged at the age of 18 I refused to give my virginity to the guy I was with. Over time I found out that the reason he didn't ask me sex was because he was getting it to 2 other women. One of which he was "engaged" to as well and the other who pretended to be my friend. I'm not saying all men are like that because my husband was willing to wait and during our first year of marriage we couldn't have intercourse because of a medical issue making it impossible for us to be intimate. Sex does not equal love, commitment does. And if you find a guy willing to be faithful to YOU and not pressure you for sex and treats you with respect..... he's a catch.
LIE NUMBER 3 - TO FIND A MAN YOU HAVE TO BE A 10
I'm not downing beauty products, fitness, or the desire to wear nice things. Shannon Ethridge explains that our body is a temple and that it's great that we want to look nice, but challenges us to make sure that all our time and income don't go to those things. Not just that but if you are blessed with female features that are more defined than others, that doesn't mean that you have to show them off. Dressing the part of a woman can be very difficult now a days because we are flashed with super models with perfect figures, who work out 5 days a week and eat a specific diet. I used to say if you advertise yourself as a sex object, your asking for it. I guess that I said that because I dressed in such manor and was taken advantage of sexually while I was in High School. I felt that it was my fault because of the way I dressed, if I had dressed more modest it wouldn't have happened. Rapist are rapist. It doesn't matter what you are wearing, what you are driving, your background or location. Moving forward, STORY TIME! When I met my husband for the first time I was wearing a tshirt and sweatpants drinking a beer with my hair in a bun. I was not trying to impress anyone, just being myself. A REAL man will be attracted to your inner beauty, not what you have to offer him sexually. I'm not a 10, nowhere near a 10 in looks, but to my husband I am. Not because I'm a beauty queen but because I have a great personality. Be a 10 in personality.
These aren't all the lies that Satan tells women about sex but these are the top 3. We can't keep allowing Satan to fill our minds with these misconceptions. We need to listen to what God tells us about Sex and Men. Make sure you are always double checking your bible before you believe everything you hear or read! Remember you are special, you are important, you are beautiful, and you are desired!!! God loves you!
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