Some people are attached to you. Some people are assigned to you. There is a difference.
I don't remember who said it, I don't remember if I wrote it in my journal. But it stuck. The last few hours I keep hearing it play in my head. I started trying to figure out who these people were in my life. Who was assigned and who was attached. I kept getting sidetracked with other things and could never really figure it out. I remember reading Kim Pothier's new book Beautifully Whole (You can find it here) about the 5 closest friends you have. If you look at your 5 closest friends, you can see what kind of influence you have on your life. I had to think REALLY hard to get to 5. I have lots of friends, but very few who are very very close. It drew me to 1 Corinthians 15:33.
Do Not Be Mislead: bad company corrupts good character.
Ouch! So now I'm not just looking at my 5 closest friends to see who is attached or who is assigned. I'm looking to see how many people in my life aren't good influences. Gah! Distraction overload. I was getting my son's bath ready and I said, "God, I want to understand this better in my own life. I want to know what you want me to know about being attached to someone and being assigned to someone." All my best revelations come when I'm near water. Just a fact for your evening.
He started showing me the difference between the two words. Excuse me while I do the one thing my creative writing teacher told me NEVER to do.
ATTACHED. Joined, fastened, or connected to something. Full of affection or fondness.
The way I see it is this. Someone who is attached to you is someone you don't have to have in your life. If they are attached to you, they can be unattached. Example. You have a friend who is living a life filled with sin but they like being around you because you are a good person. However, our actions should want them to better themselves to be a better person. That person, probably one of those bad company people that are talked about in 1 Corinthians. You are fond of them. You care for them. But you really don't have a strong desire to go out of your way for them. In different seasons of your life, this could be someone who could become an assignment. But for now, they are just attached and you might have to cut the cord. No, you need to cut the cord.
ASSIGNED. A job or duty. Designate or set (something) aside for a specific purpose.
Let's be 100% here. Sometimes we don't like the duty or thing that is set aside for us to do. BUT there is this amazing part of that definition that I cannot ignore. SPECIFIC PURPOSE. God would NEVER give you a specific job or duty if there wasn't a reason. Sometimes the people he assigns to you, aren't people you want to be assigned to you. But there is a reason. If we would stop looking so deeply into our emotional issues with people then we could fully embrace what God is doing with our lives. Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean that God isn't going to use that person in a powerful way to change your life!
Do you want to know the best-kept secret to living your purpose and calling on your life?
Luke 16:10
Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.
BOOM! Mind blown. If you are called to greatness, you have to be faithful in the small things. This principle is a small thing, guys. Some people are attached to you and some are assigned to you. You have to be willing to take a deep look at those around you and focus on what God is asking you to do. I want to challenge you to take a few minutes and look at your inner circle. Who is in it? Are they pointing you to a Godly lifestyle?
If you want to achieve greatness in your life with God's plan, then you have to be faithful in this small thing. Check who is attached to you and who is assigned. One simple 'unfriend' or 'block' could catapult you into the next and best season of your life.
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